Its like every step I had ever taken to better myself since my diagnosis, just never happened. Thank you for taking the time to share your story. While these cries for help should be taken seriously, we understand that you may experience burn out from worrying about us and the repeated behavior. Privacy A year ago, I could not have written this letter, but it represents much of what was in my heart but could not yet be realized or expressed. I was so considerate and walked over again and again. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a long-term pattern of "abnormal behavior" that is characterized by an unstable sense of self, emotions, and relationships with other people. My wife was diagnosed with BPD a number of years ago and it's been more of a battle for her than for me. Click on the different category headings to find out more. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. I'n sending a hug to you . This is coming from the mouth of the same guy who proposed to me last year. before you all jump on me telling me i'm in denial don't want to get help etc i've done nothing but GET HELP for years. Somewhere between 1.6% and 5.9% of adults in the US have BPD, a personality disorder that's characterized by difficulty regulating emotion. My wife got me a book back in 2004 called Walking On Egg Shells that has helped me so very much. Our 25 year old daughter tried to kill her self last night also. You sound like the type of person who deserves as much love and acceptance as you give out x x x Reply freewillg Additional comment actions I have grown up loving my mother who struggles with BPD. I am on the edge. That still doesn't negate the real pain that people with BPD do cause. Just try.Won't work. I have the unique ability to "throw people off" my scent when they get close to calling me out on stuffThe only reason why I am here is because my oldest told me tonight that he knows that I am "unwell" and expressed himself honestly about those characteristics in my behavior that are destroying him emotionally to be fair, I am dealing with a lot of unnormal stuff, but am really unclear as to where it all ends and I begin I really have no idea, and I am miserable. I came across this link on tumblr while browsing and I felt compelled to respond from the perspective of the BPD's child. I have suffered with BPD since I was 11, I didn't get help until I was 34. 4301 Wilson Blvd., Suite 300 Today I turned 47 and I feel like I am 77. I am also a Type 1 Diabetic of 17 years. If BDP people are triggered into the abyss of misery, then so are we. You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. Whenever that happens it takes her many days to recover, during which periods she will vacillate between seeming to be okay, and seething, and saying things like "I don't trust you. All in all today I am successfull in all that I set my mind on to do. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. Because these cookies are strictly necessary to deliver the website, refusing them will have impact how our site functions. BPD Community Victoria. I feel like they deserve better and that I have failed miserably. Thank you for sharing it and passing it along! My ex is a very convincing and extremely intelligent person. She is a wonderful Woman and I love her with all my heart, my life, my everything. Hi there, I am now in my 2nd month of treatment for BPD, and ,sadly, had all nine of the symptoms. Now she has totally disappeared from my life after just two years of marriage. Sometimes the best thing to do, if you can muster up the strength in all of your frustration and hurt, is to grab us, hug us, and tell us that you love us, care, and are not leaving. Can't take their word for anything. Once diagnosed BPD, always BPD. I know all the theory now. Since these providers may collect personal data like your IP address we allow you to block them here. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. Doing a lot of reading keep reading things like don't get bogged down on the details, focus on her emotions, don't get defensive. In my experience, one of the most effective ways of doing this is to find someone who as gone through the DBT treatment to share some of their experiences with potential or new clients. I want there to be love in the world. After reading this letter i feel that i myself wrote most of it. very extreme that the relationship is badly skewed, and shouldn't go on. I have emotionally detached myself quite well this time I think. Groups are not for everyone. ive been through the same, she knows she has it but cant have anyone know, she cant have people think shes not perfect and happy. I think you are the first Norwegian to tell me about her BPD blog. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. You *can* overcome this disorder! The one thing I would add is that people with BPD need to recognize that no matter the rationale for their actions, they do hurt people, and hurt people have a right to their feelings as much as people with BPD have a right to their own feelings. I want to point out that you have a lot of clarity and insight into what's been happening for you and your desired boundaries around your family. Yes, I live in my fathers house, but we barely speak, and I harbor so my anger toward him that sometimes I cant talk to him because I dont know what awful words could come out of my mouth. I suspect that my ex-wife is BPD, but I am at a loss to deal with it because she is completely unaware. Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? I also see your side and know you must have been through alot with her and you have to protect yourself and your family. Until I got out of all the physc stuff , non groups and started to directly talk or better said listen to those that suffer from BPD I really had no idea. . . This is the hardest thing of all for me to overcome. Ultimately, the borderline creates their biggest fear. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. Terms. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. If you want a copy email me: dutch.christine@gmail.com. How is this possible? ive stuck with her while she tells people 1365 dif reasons we arent together. I have been diagnosed with BPD, Obsessive Compulsive PD, Histrionic PD, Avoidant PD, Dependant PD and Depressive. It's sad that I would have to use our son as an instrument to get my wife in front of a mental health professional, but it is the only way I can see him being protected from the long term effects of this mental illness. Early on in our diagnosis and before really digging in deep with DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), we dont have the proper tools to tell you this or ask for your support in healthy ways. I hope that your sister receives the help that she needs and that you and your family get the support you deserve as well. This is how people in our BPD community explained these five classic BPD behaviors that are commonly mistaken for being "manipulative": 1. I miss you all and us so much. It was only ever a matter of time and what scared me the most was the thought that youd find someone who would treat you better, who wasnt so weighed down. You are not the cause of our suffering. There are many different borderline personality disorder symptoms or traits including: feeling empty inside. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. Unfortunately, many kids of BPD's become BPD themselves because they learn the thought patterns, behaviors, and unstable feelings as a normal way to be. Yes, it's good to have a job so that i'm out of the house and not laying in bed all day. But that will only happen if others that share in the experience find this and share it with others. . This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. I am 26 years old, I live in Wichita, KS, and I live with my father because I cannot live alone. The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient, Got BPD? Symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) at work can vary, including the different ways that these symptoms can affect your job performance and ability to "fit in" with your coworkers. I am almost 50 and hate myself for having any of this. Ironically, he was a doctor, a darn good one too if I might add.Now, having three daughters, I am struggling to find a way to explain to my girls that I love them despite the way I acted, and in dillema whether it's best to live apart from them for their sake since my BPD might influence their mental growth, and miss them or stay and make matters worse. It has been the most challenging part of my entire life, I love her unconditionally and with all of my heart yet it never seems to be enough, to be noticed, to be accepted. You are a strong person for working so hard to heal yourself. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. I NEVER RELAX. An open letter to the children of a BPD parent should simply say, "I am so very sorry for hurting you. I was excited because all of my problems finally had an explanation, and just maybe I wasnt such a bad person. I am very excited for your ongoing healing! I am a 39yr old female who recently got diagnosed with BPD. Open Letter To All With BPD A.J. Maybe he'll come back to me. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. How can I stay and support them, but protect myself as well?' I feel helpless, powerless to get my feelings accross. I'm very grateful for his letter, Christine. For example, a male with BPD may engage in frequent binge drinking of. Explore the different options for supporting NAMI's mission. This website is a collection of information that we have found helpful or of interest in the context of our own lived experiences. Someone needs groceries, even if I barely have enough money to feed myself? BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! Maybe Debbie wants to add the Ducht version at her list of translations on her website? If you have decided to tap into your strength and stand by your loved one with BPD, you probably need support too. Learn how your comment data is processed. I don't think it is heartless that you've chosen to put your family first and set boundaries that is healthy! Talk therapy is the main treatment for BPD. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. She has been diagnosed, but refuses to even acknowledge that half the time (more than half the time) and I have had to take a zero tolerance for any crap in order to protect my family. Forgot those important facts. I'm fortunate enough to have a man in my life who is willing to put up with my ups and downs, how mean I can be for no reason so many things. Thank you for all you honesty and compassion. The Socialist Republic of Romania (Romanian: Republica Socialist Romnia, RSR) was a Marxist-Leninist one-party socialist state that existed officially in Romania from 1947 to 1989. I can't be myself around you. I've spent time in mental health institutions, in therapy, I have made attempts on my own life and I'm 25 years old - I feel I have been through things that most people don't go through until they are much later on in life. 4. Try to deny it. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a significant mental health disorder that is so disruptive it was once thought untreatable. And they can have somthing themselvesand lie to themselves. I am grateful for this letter. However, when they are presented in a manner as if the struggle somehow evaporates at the end is not logical, because life is never so linear. Thank you for taking the time to comment here. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. UPDATE: A video version of this letter, com, plete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking, https://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/healing-from-bpd-e1577900769964.jpg, An Open Letter From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder. I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? 1300 554 660. Your email address will not be published. Sometimes I hate him. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. I am aware there is a shift in the middle of this brief description of my experience from talking to people with mental illness, toward talking to those without it. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. It's all chaos. Hi Sarah and John. Thank you for the article. I don't harm my self, don't act on impulse, don't fear abandonment I am no longer scared or afraid to live and love. We're currently in the middle of another episode as I write this. My look on life was empty and my selfimage was terrible. I know that my new wife and family would appreciate it as well. And a couple days ago I put my guitar away and said, Im done.. This time tho I just dont know if I can walk in all the pain any longer. The following are trademarks of NAMI: NAMI, NAMI Basics, NAMI Connection, NAMI Ending the Silence, NAMI FaithNet, NAMI Family & Friends, NAMI Family Support Group, NAMI Family-to-Family, NAMI Grading the States, NAMI Hearts & Minds, NAMI Homefront, NAMI HelpLine, NAMI In Our Own Voice, NAMI On Campus, NAMI Parents & Teachers as Allies, NAMI Peer-to-Peer, NAMI Provider, NAMI Smarts for Advocacy, Act4MentalHealth, Vote4MentalHealth, NAMIWalks and National Alliance on Mental Illness. I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. I do love him and I am asking the Lord to help me help him. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. Perhaps you have tried so many things to ease the pain, but nothing has worked. This is an example of how manipulative people with BPD can be. Write as much as you'd like, pour out your heart and soul and tell him how hurt you are and how much you didn't deserve such horrific treatment. Happy for you both. There are other online DBT resources starting up (I will be co-facilitating one of them!) As I read it I want to share it with my husband and daughter for starters but would love to share it to my DBT therapist and group.How do you feel about that? This open letter can be extremely helpful to people who love someone diagnosed with BPD. This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). Thank you for your kind comment. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). This seems to be at the crux of NPD, the refusal to show vulnerability. And most importantly, maybe I had a chance to get better. I know people with BPD who were never abused or traumatized, so they can't really say BPD is actually a type of PTSD/trauma-based disorder either. She stopped answering my calls when I wanted to know if she would be home for dinner and made excuses to avoid me, staying out until 10 or 11 pm and leaving at 7am each morning. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. I asked myself these questions over and over again but there were no answers. While you can attempt to be sensitive with the things you say and do, thats not always possible, and its not always clear why something sets off a trigger. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. I wish you strength and hope as you do this work, and please always remember to also take care of YOU. Thank you. All the feelings of worthlessness came flooding back into my head. Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. However, your information, resources and support are consistent, real, accurate and like the comfort of a warm blanket on a cold night. My email is kristenwoods81@aol.con. My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. I put my family through hell for years. Use non-judgmental words to describe our behaviours. I truly appreciate what you said. I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. Some individuals with BPD tend to push limits, engage in risky behaviors, or seek stimulation in ways that are unhealthy. No one from the hospital has ever contacted me about her condition or treatment plan, I have been left totally in the dark and out of her recovery. It gives me hope.x. Thank you for the hope you have given us.and putting it in terms we can understand. Everyone is that way for different reasons so how do you know if you deserve for example to write a letter like this to give people around you so they can "understand" and not feel so bad about the whole situation. I pray that she is able to find a place where you are now. No one is perfect and no one has life figured out, we are all troubled in some way. I thank higher powers for not leaving life. I don't know what to do anymore. Tonight tho as she is in the psych ward I feel as tho my world is crashing down around me. At times I've felt as if, emotionally, I were being held hostage. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. Thanks for your beautiful letter it reminds me that she can't help it and we were close for 32 years so close. . Thank you once again. Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. To receive a diagnosis of BPD, five of these nine symptoms need to be present (1): Feeling empty, or having low self-esteem. Wow is all I can say!!! They have similar symptoms, but I don't believe they can be classified the same. Pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else. Find out how you can be a NAMI HelpLine specialist. Hello thank you so much for sharing. It can often produce stereotyping and be frightening and misleading. Thank you, and may the knowledge you acquire now help you to build a life worth living from here and forward. Best of luck! Well I better get off this pitty pottyMy Daughter just called and she is Barking also. I am a mess. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. My kneejerk concern about the situation sometimes is rejection, but I try to put the feelings she is going through in perspective and just wait. Unskilled borderline sufferers can be a lot to handle and some BPD behaviors necessitate separation. Please be aware that this might heavily reduce the functionality and appearance of our site. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. Hay Debbie, I can relate to so much of this. Not what i wanted but almost lost all since of myself. Take care allTim. People started telling me that I was using my diagnosis as an excuse for my bad behavior. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. We need 2 cookies to store this setting. A normal life can be had. My will. Don't write her off. After experiencing a lack of support at work, Beth became a champion for workplace mental health. I have a wife and a Daughter who both have BPD wanting to die and both are in Psych Wards. As you note, they benefit from the mystery around BPD bc they can more easily confuse people, induce sympathy and get people to excuse their abuse etc. It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. Debbie,I just LOVE LOVE LOVE your honesty and compassion. I am having to learn what triggers, when she splits I have currently moved out of my home where she and her boyfriend live, as she had a major melt a month ago. It was total and it was overwhelming and it could be cruel." Cassandra Clare. Boredom is often dangerous for us, as it can lead to the feelings of emptiness. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. For her . Its a cycle of negativity. I open my doors. I am very glad to hear about the understanding you're experiencing within your family. This site uses cookies to give you the best, most relevant experience. Its hard, and my life sucks.. My blog is aggis.wordpress.com, but its in norwgian, lol. I made it though, and I now know that I have so much to offer to my future clients because of my own experience with mental illnesses. Ive read that DBT could be the answer to her unpredictable behaviour and fears, the problem is that we were stuck in a step before. Seventy-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are women in their child bearing age (Lamont, 2006). I am sorry you didn't have a happy childhood. Copyright 2023 NAMI. Its smart for us to stay busy and distract ourselves when boredom starts to come on. I wish I could get my husband to read this. They have a higher risk of suicide and self-destructive behavior. strong, overwhelming emotions and feelings. I watched her deteriorate before my eyes and her children, too. That with the right kind of help and support you can build a 'life worth living'. It is inspiring and a ray of light to those of us who have a loved one with BPD to remind us that is just an aspect that can be overcommed to let us live in full the beauty of life. But now that i know i have BPD and i know what it means I feel like I will eventually have control over it. I tried to help her by pleading not to go back to the guy after he choked her (!!!) But first I know I need, and I want to get better. Read it and notice the many lessons within: === "Hello Rick! Not someone with questionable actions in their past. I read The Art of Asking by my favorite artist Amanda Palmer, and it was absolutely wonderful. ~ Dave M. Also, during those long recovery periods, she will fixate on a distorted, misremembered and misquoted version of something I'd said during the fight, always distorted to be much harsher than what I actually said, and sometimes completely "fabricated" with no basis in anything I said. We may jump from one friend to another, going from loving and idolizing them to despising them deleting them from our cell phones and unfriending them on Facebook. All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. I wish my girlfriend had been able to do what you have done, she fought for me for a long time, but it just became to much for her. The author of this letter has since RECOVERED from Borderline Personality Disorder and no longer meets the criteria for a BPD diagnosis. A common call to the SANE Helpline often goes like this: 'I think my partner, daughter or son has borderline personality disorder (BPD) and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around them. She feels fully justified in treating my mother with all sorts of nasty abusive language and accusations. Debbie, Thank you so much for your comment. Currently, my BPD symptoms are worsening. In addition to learning more about BPD and how to self-care around it, be sure to do things that you enjoy and that soothe you, such as getting out for a walk, seeing a funny movie, eating a good meal, taking a warm bath whatever you like to do to care for yourself and feel comforted. this doesn't work for everyone, at all. Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. I just want to Scream at the both of them saying how the hell can you both do this!!!!???? SANE Helpline. As I read your open letter, I tried to imagine my daughter saying this to me.how very helpful! You might feel like you're being held hostage . I keep reading things about how we cant love and that people should stay well clear of us, thankyou for writing this, my ex split with me, a week ago nd ive signed over my house coz she has nowhere to go, she jus thinks im trying to get back with her and has been told to cut all ties coz I will make her life hell, just feel so alone. She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. This was very well thought out and appreciated. However, it's my belief that the letter does little to help the children of borderlines. Maybe there is hope or support out there but i can't figure out how to know who deserves it and who doesnt and if i try think about it i just panic and get nowhere, make things worse, so i was wondering what your thoughts are as this is obviously a subject you have much experience with. I am a woman with BPD. Thanks again. 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